“Pay attention to yourselves! If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him, and if he sins against you seven times in the day, and turns to you seven times, saying, ‘I repent,’ you must forgive him.” (Luke 17:3-4)
This passage is one that is easy to understand the meaning, but challenging to obey. Let’s see what I mean.
- If your brother sins [against you, in Greek], rebuke him. Clear.
- If he repents, forgive him. Clear.
- If he sins against you SEVEN times in a day, and repents seven times, forgive him. Clear.
The requirement is clear. But the multiplication factor of seven makes this requirement difficult to obey. Some may feel like a sucker if they forgive the same person seven times in a day. Others may feel like the repentant person is not really repentant when the multiplication factor is added. I can hear myself say, “After all, if he were really repentant, he wouldn’t keep doing it.”
Interestingly, Jesus didn’t offer those thought experiments as options. He said, “Forgive them.” But what if they are not serious? Jesus didn’t go there. He just said, “Forgive.”
Once, I get. Twice, maybe. Three times, possibly. Four times, not a chance. Nope.
When Peter asked how many times he should forgive, Jesus said, “Seventy times seven” (Mt 18:21-22). Yikes!
How could he demand we forgive a sinner like that? The one sentence I have not yet mentioned is the first sentence of this passage. Jesus first said, “Pay attention to yourselves!” His priority seems not to be for me to determine how much of a sinner the other guy is or how repentant he is. Rather, he wants me to focus on my own heart. He wants me, a sinner who has been forgiven MUCH, to offer forgiveness to others.
Additionally, it makes sense that he wants me to pay attention to the fact that I am not sinning against others. I suspect that if I am focused on my own heart, I will not be so focused on another’s sin.
I saw this played out in my fifth-grade classroom recently. A girl who was actively breaking at least three classroom rules stopped what she was doing to tell on another kid. I asked her why she was “snitching” on him. Without hesitation, she said, “Because he is not supposed to do that!” The irony was thick. Really thick. I said, “But look at yourself. Are you supposed to be doing _______, _______, or _______?” In a brief moment of self-consideration, she quietly said, “No.” Her self-reflection lasted about one second before she said, “But he’s not supposed to do that!”
I can’t throw stones at her because I don’t like to pay attention to myself either. I prefer to count how many times someone else sinned or measure the sincerity of their repentance. But Jesus said, “Pay attention to yourself.” He also said, “Forgive.”
Father, please help me pay attention to my own heart, and please help me grow a forgiving heart. Amen.