Proverbs 4:3-4

“When I was a son with my father,

  tender, the only one in the sight of my mother,

he taught me and said to me,

“Let your heart hold fast my words;

  keep my commandments, and live.”

Proverbs 4:3-4

Proverbs is filled with repetition, which indicates the importance of the subject that is being repeated. In this case, Proverbs 7:1 repeats vs. 4 above: “My son, keep my words and treasure up my commandments with you.”

In this comparison, we see the writer’s emphasis on keeping “words” and “commandments,” which results in living. Once recognizing the principle of repetition regarding this subject, the wise reader should sense an urgency to ask and answer this question: “What are those words and commandments?”

Enjoy the journey of discovery as you mine the life-giving riches of Proverbs.

The Secret Shopper

Can you really get paid to eat at restaurants or is that an urban legend? “Yes, you can get paid to eat at restaurants. And, yes, it is an urban legend. What?”

Let me clarify. Being a secret shopper is much more than deciding on a Friday night to roll up to your favorite dining establishment and eat whatever you want for free in exchange for a thumbs up or down on your experience. That’s the urban legend part. The reality is much different. So, you are wondering, “Can I eat for free or not?” If you are hired as a secret shopper you can, but not necessarily at your favorite restaurant.

But, before telling you how the Secret Shopper system works, I should tell you what it is. Businesses of all types hire reviewers to present themselves as customers at the business to evaluate their employees and/or the product being offered by that business. In other words, the business wants a targeted customer review.

Generally businesses do not hire secret shoppers directly. Shoppers are hired through an agency that recruits, vets, and assigns people to covertly visit the desired establishment. Sometimes, the shopper is directed to purchase a specific item. Alternatively, the shopper may simply be required to purchase anything. In either case, the purchase is made with the intention of returning the item at a later date.

While agencies may distribute assignments slightly differently, the general process is as follows: Once a person is agency-approved to be a secret shopper, he/she is given access to shopping opportunities. I’ve been offered opportunities at restaurants, different types of retailers (e.g., electronics stores, clothing stores, and grocery stores), and especially car dealerships. The shopper selects opportunities of interest, then requests the assignment.

The shopping assignment may be for a specific day or time of day, and must be completed within a specific time frame. So again, being a secret shopper often requires more than a spur of the moment, “Hey, let’s go shopping!” It takes planning … and stealth.

It seemed to me, that most of the restaurant opportunities were specifically targeting alcohol service, so that excluded me. The auto dealerships offered opportunities to “shop” for a vehicle or to use the service center. The latter seemed to be the most lucrative offer since the shopper would get a shopping fee and receive a free oil change and service. However, getting those opportunities required having a specific make and model of car, which I never had. Shopping for a car was challenging because I had to keep my cover story together. Since the business requires the shopper to be completely secret, nothing can be said that would give any indication that this is a hired shopping experience. Also, I felt bad taking up the sales agent’s time, giving him the impression that I was really interested in a car all the while knowing that I was not going to purchase anything. I was simply going to write a report about his presentation, knowledge, and demeanor.

In order to get paid, the shopper must not only complete the shopping assignment, but also must complete the report correctly and on time. Reporting is where I lost interest because not only are the reports very detailed, they are time consuming due to the number and type of questions (think final exam with essay questions!). Additionally, the formatting was critical. So much so that I almost lost a fee because I stapled the business’ card on the right side of the report rather than the left.

In the end, I realized that completing the shopping and reporting meant I was earning at or just below minimum wage. So, while I enjoyed the experience, I quickly realized that secret shopping was not what I thought it would be, nor was it worthwhile for me.

Why can’t it be easier to get a free meal?

Proverbs 3:13-14

“Blessed is the one who finds wisdom, and the one who gets understanding, for the gain from her is better than gain from silver and her profit better than gold.”

Proverbs 3:13-14 ESV

Because proverbs is a book of faith, it is sometimes very counterintuitive. Without faith, the proverb may be impossible to believe: the gain from wisdom is better than the gain from silver and gold?

Only by faith does this make sense. Let that sink in a bit before dismissing it as nonsense. Additionally, look for this same principle to be evident throughout the book of Proverbs. Mark it when you see it.

Wisdom Personified

Wisdom cries aloud in the street,
    in the markets she raises her voice;
21 at the head of the noisy streets she cries out;
    at the entrance of the city gates she speaks:
22 “How long, O simple ones, will you love being simple?
How long will scoffers delight in their scoffing
    and fools hate knowledge?
23 If you turn at my reproof,
behold, I will pour out my spirit to you;
    I will make my words known to you.

Proverbs 1:20-23 ESV

Here, wisdom is personified. I wonder if the intent is to give the reader a more relatable understanding of wisdom. In certain religions or philosophies, wisdom seems to be a thing that is so far out there, or otherworldly, that only a select few can understand what it is or achieve it.

By personifying wisdom, it seems that the writer is attempting to make wisdom relatable, understandable, and attainable … for all.

Challenge: This year make it your goal to befriend wisdom. Make wisdom a welcome part of your daily life. Reading Proverbs each day is a helpful way to do this.

Proverbs 31:10

“An excellent wife who can find?

    She is far more precious than jewels.”

Proverbs 31:10 ESV

Here, the writer almost offers a challenge: Who can find an excellent wife? Maybe he’s asking a group of young men, who compete to answer, “I can! I can!” And then to clarify, the writer adds, “She’s far more precious than jewels.” It seems that his audience may have thought that jewels are the most precious thing, so it’s important for them to know that an excellent wife is still more precious than jewels.

The message to men is not only to inform us about the value of an excellent wife, but also to shape our thinking about them. Most have some idea how jewels are treated and treasured. That provides a benchmark for how we should treat and treasure an excellent wife.

Men, are you treasuring your wife better than you would a bag of diamonds? “But she’s not an excellent wife,” some may reply. Is that because you have broken her spirit by not treasuring her appropriately?

The easy thing for us to do is blame the other party for not doing their part. In reality, we have control and responsibility only for ourselves. So, even if she isn’t behaving like an excellent wife for reasons other than you, treat her like a treasure anyway.