Proverbs 20:3

“It is an honor for a man to keep aloof from strife,

  but every fool will be quarreling.”

Proverbs 20:3

Here, the writer argues for being a peacemaker. While there is certainly a time for battle (Ecclesiastes 3:8), the point here is that one’s spirit ought to be one of avoiding strife, not running toward it. This is a character issue, and the person who revels in quarreling is a fool.

Jesus said, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God” (Matthew 5:9). Those who strive for peace are certainly not fools.

How are you doing in this regard? Is your spirit one of peace or conflict? When someone is recounting a story do you jump in to correct them on the finer details of the story? “It was a red car. No, it was maroon!” And, then justify the tensions because “It was a maroon car!”